The Trouble with Drift
September 22, 2025

When Life Moves Without You
Drift doesn’t happen in a single dramatic moment. You don’t wake up one morning and decide to be unmoored. It happens in inches — in the small compromises, the subtle silences, the days you tell yourself you’ll get back on track tomorrow.
We rarely notice drift when it starts. Only when we look back do we realize how far the current has carried us.
Recognizing the Current
Life has a way of pulling us into its stream. Responsibilities, routines, expectations — they all create a momentum of their own. And momentum feels safe. It feels like progress, even when it’s only repetition.
But momentum without meaning eventually empties us. It’s possible to be busy, productive, even successful — and still be drifting from yourself.
The Compass Question
The good news is that drift is not destiny. The moment you notice it, you have a chance to reset your direction. The question is simple, but it cuts deep:
👉 Am I moving because I choose this, or because I’ve stopped choosing at all?
That question is a compass. It doesn’t give you a map, but it points you back toward presence.
A Practical Step: The Five-Minute Recalibration
This week, try this exercise:
- Sit down with a notebook.
- Write at the top of the page: Where am I drifting right now?
- Set a timer for five minutes and write whatever comes. Don’t edit. Don’t justify. Just notice.
At the end, circle one line that feels the truest. That line is your signal.
From Drift to Direction
The opposite of drift isn’t control. It’s presence.
It’s choosing, even in small ways, to step back into your own life with intention.
Drift may be gentle, but so is course correction. One pause, one honest question, one chosen action — and you’re back steering again.
Invitation Forward
We all drift. The question is whether we notice in time to return.
So let me leave you with this:
👉 What’s one small choice you can make today that belongs fully to you?
And if you’d like to keep a compass at hand — a reminder of the questions that bring you back to yourself — you can join The Signal, where I share monthly reflections, printable Compass Questions, and glimpses of what’s being written behind the page.
Because presence isn’t passive. It’s how we find our way back.
About the Author

I’m S. Bobby Alexander. I write stories and reflections about the signals we follow, the threads we carry, and the echoes that stay with us. At the heart of my work is a conviction: the stories you carry shape the life you live. The stories you share shape the lives around you.
Every piece is an invitation to notice sparks, listen for echoes, and find the courage to follow the threads that matter most. If this essay left something with you, I’d love to hear it — share a reflection, or carry it forward in your own way. Stories aren’t just written. They’re lived, and passed on.
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